how to find out what site causes overload?
I'm using a VPS (based on UML), according to specMinimum Guaranteed RAM 192 MB
Minimum Guaranteed CPU 150 Mhz+
Maximum RAM 4 GB
by the way, is a chance to verify this?
i'm hosting near 20-30 not so busy sites - total traffic of the whole VPS is less than 15Gb/m
For the last month I have almost everyday overload - mysql & apache craches, often "Lost connection to MySQL server during query", sometimes everything crached

How can I find out what cause overload?
what process, user, site ?
Support was so good to suggest me to go to dedicated without dealing what is really going with VPS

Please help, i'm not so good at linux, but already had implemented log-slow-queries for mysql (Support was unable to do this for several days or just ignored my request), made page which dispay `uptime`...
what can i do more?

please help!!!